Emotions

A true relationship between man and woman brings about astounding effects in both the emotions and physique. But the main question one would probably ask is which of these two effects would create a greater impact upon their individual self, and which of these two would make them crumble should their partners decide to flush them away from their lives.

There were researches conducted on this aspect of a relationship, and our team had also received tons of comments from readers and friends about their relationship experiences. From all of that, we can derive one answer to this. Emotional effects are the ones that create the bigger impact rather than the physical effects!

If one were to analyze the issue here, it is actually the emotions that form that strong bond between two people. It is the emotions that make the couple get physical with each other. Getting physical itself in actual fact does not bring any sort of meaning to a relationship, unless it is accompanied by the love and sparks for each other.

You can be holding hands and hugging somebody but it does not necessarily mean that you will fall in love with the person. After all, falling in love does not begin with a physical touch. The root of love and a beautiful relationship lies in the feelings that develop inside the moment you set eyes on each other. If all you want to do is get physical with someone, it is nothing more than just lust.

Physical attraction will never last a lifetime, but emotional attraction does. And when emotional attraction between you and your partner keeps going on and on, so will your physical attraction. So what we are trying to derive here is that when you and your partner are bonded by your love and feelings, both of you will enjoy the physical attraction for a long time as well.

It is a win-win situation for you in that case. However, if the relationship is established solely on the basis of physical attraction, it would be difficult for both to establish the emotional connection, thus having to bear the risk of losing the relationship sooner than you think. In this case, it is not a win-win situation. Both will lose out in the end.

So for you who are searching for that soul mate or have given a thought about submitting your heart and soul to someone you have met, ask yourself why you want to be in a relationship with the person. Is it because you have affirmed of your feelings and that you want to live your life forever with him or her? Or are you just merely attracted to his or her physique?

Because remember, relationships will work well when the physical effects comes together with the emotional effects. It is the emotional bond that can bring everlasting happiness to two couple till eternity, or make them crumble when they lose each other.

Emotional relationships are nothing short of complicated. For this reason, many people are not able to make out what their relationships are in terms of emotions. To understand emotional relationships, you have to think at each word at a time. Relationships are unions between two individuals or more that are established on mutual agreements that are formal or informal. Relationships can vary based on several factors but, the most common definition of relationships is as stated above. Emotions are feelings that run deep and they determine the kind of connection you have with the person you are relating with. Emotional relations can be both platonic and otherwise. When people have this emotional attachment with others, it might be mutual and in many cases it is not. There are many people who get into such relationships with people who do not know. There are many causes or factors that might cause you to feel this deep affection for someone else. First, you may be attracted to something they have. It might be material or immaterial but, this is pretty common. Sometimes, these relationships will have a user and a person who is being used. It is not usually easy to draw the line between mutual affection and the relationship that is material.

Emotional relationships will come about as a result of a crush and, this is pretty common with young people. Many will be attracted to their teachers. This is based on an attraction that breeds from admiration of their role or physical features. As stated earlier, many emotional relationships never materialize and, people will not even know the ones who are relating with them emotionally. This brings us to the point that, there are emotional relations that are healthy and there are those which are not. When people enter relationships emotionally to use other people, it is not a good enough reason. This is because it all depends on what they have to gain. A healthy relationship is one that is both emotional and based on mutual trust and respect. However, when a student admires a teacher and she or he is captured emotionally, this might be a genuine affection but, it is really hard to draw the lines. Love brings out strong emotions in us and, there is no telling who we fall in love with or become infatuated with.

When people are in unhealthy emotional relationships, they will not realize the true sense of love that is mutual; one that goes both ways. When you fall in love with a person intentionally for the money they have, you will have emotional relations with the money and not the person. The result of this unhealthy affection is obsession and, it is not a good track to be in. Love is spontaneous but, we can choose to stop ourselves from getting emotionally attached to people who we have no future with. Attachment emotionally is pretty powerful and, it is vital for you to rid you heart and mind of those relationships that are not going to benefit you wholesomely in the long run.

What's the point of emotional pain? Why do we feel anger, hurt, sadness? What's the point?

We feel physical pain to tell us that something needs attention. The burning tells us to move away from the fire. The ache of joint tells us to stay still whilst it heals.

Emotional pain has the same purpose as physical pain. It is to tell us that something isn't right. It comes about as a result of the difference between what we desire inside and what we actually experience outside.

A painful emotion is the tension we feel when there's a difference between what we want, and what we have

For example if you have a need to be acknowledged or listened to, and in your relationship you don't feel you are getting that, you will feel this difference as a painful emotion. This difference between what we want (or need) and what we receive creates a gap or a tension. And it's this tension that we feel as a painful emotion.

We might have different labels for that emotion - we might feel anger, or hurt or even sadness. Whatever the label the cause is the same. It's the difference between what we want, and what we get.

According to many philosophies there is really only one emotion - the emotion of LOVE

Anything else you feel is resistance to love or the absence or even withholding of love.

Think of love as an energy that flows through you and if that flow is blocked, either from coming IN to you or from LEAVING you, you will feel it as emotion. The word emotion breaks down into E (energy) motion (movement) so it is literally the movement of energy.

When you feel a negative emotion, what you actually feel as pain is the resistance to love

Those feelings inside are the result of your inner resistance to love. The label we give to a painful emotion refers to the way in which love is being removed from us or resisted.

For example, when we feel sad, that feeling comes from the loss of something or someone we love.

Anger is the feeling that we were denied love.

Fear is the feeling that we will lose love.

Hurt is the feeling that another withheld love, or rejected our love.

Guilt is the feeling that we didn't love enough, didn't give or show enough love.

When love flows freely the feeling is GOOD. When we give love and it is accepted and when we feel that we are loved and are able to accept it. When we don't' feel love being given and we want it, we feel it as pain.

How do you stop the pain?

Most people try to stop the pain by changing the OUTSIDE. They try to get others to change. Sometimes they even change the actual person. The problem with this is that if you still have an underlying need for love then you will likely repeat the same pattern with different people.

However if you change the INSIDE, i.e. you change your need to be shown or given love in a particular way then the tension is gone.

Of course, you can still choose to accept love, and enjoy being loved, without it being a need. Without the tension of that unmet need, and the accompanying painful emotions it makes it much easier for people to love you, show you love and you get even more love.

Think how much easier it is to feel love towards happy, cheerful people, and how much harder it is to show love to people who are resentful, needy or demanding, or who are gloomy.

Thus, once it's no longer a need, paradoxically, you're more likely to get it. You show more love more willingly and you receive more love.