Emotions

Do you feel like you can't seem to control your emotions? Maybe you lash out at others around you and later feel bad about it. If you're like me, you're thinking that's something is wrong with you because you just can't seem to control your emotions. One day I would wake up crying feeling all emotional and then the next day I'm happy as to be. I use to think that I was bi-polar or something because of how my emotions would shift from time to time. I would lash out at whoever was around me and wouldn't think twice about it. There was a time in my life when others thought I was unable to feel emotions because I acted as if I didn't care about nothing, and nothing seem to affect me. Why is that? Why do some people feel like they can't control their emotions? Why do others act as if they're unable to feel anything?

Allot of people allow their emotions to control them. They allow their emotions to dictate how they are going to feel this day. They allow there emotions to tell them how to act when someone make them mad. Let's take anger for an example. You may be struggling with anger issues, and you constantly feel like their is something wrong with you for feeling anger all of the time. Anger is just an emotions. Anger is place inside of us to help us know when someone is taking advantage of us and when something is not right. We are not to act on anger, but it is normal to feel anger. God wants us to learn how to control our anger. The bible says "In your anger do not sin". God do not want you to walk around always mad about something. He want you to get to the root of what's causing you so much anger in the first place.

Have you ever met an emotionless person. They seem like they don't feel anything inside. They hide their emotions from others to see. People who have been so hurt so badly in their past put up walls around them and adopt this emotionless demeanor about themselves. They can feel pain just like we do, they just unable to show them. I was this type of person and I notice how some of my friends would say stuff like, "what's wrong with you. You act like you don't even care about nothing". That was my way of not allowing myself to get hurt again. I train myself to respond that way toward people. I still felt pain inside. I just didn't show them my pain.

So how can you start to control your emotions and not let your emotions control you.

•When you wake up in the morning and find yourself feeling down, depressed or just sad about yourself, shift your emotions to feel more happier. How do you shift your emotions? The way how I shift my emotions to feel much happier is by listening to music. I listen to music that's going to lift me up. I also start dancing as I'm listening to my music. It's hard to feel sad about yourself if you're up singing and dancing to some good music.

•Fight against your emotions. Be still and quiet for a minute, and just listen to what's going on inside of you. Whatever your mad at may not even be the real problem. You may just need some sleep, so instead of venting out your emotions, get silence and figure out what's really got you upset.

•Pray about your emotions. Ask God to help you deal with controlling your anger, mouth, and emotions. Whatever area you are struggling in, give it to God to take care of it for you. Now when you give it to God, God may not simply take away your anger. He may start showing you exactly why back in your past the reason why you may be angry in the first place. God will show you the root first before He take away the problem you're having. You have to be open to receive what He show you and tell you so you can get healed from your past and start moving past your anger.

You can control your emotions. You have the power over your emotions. Start today controlling them and not allowing them to control you. If you enjoyed this amazing article then share your thoughts with me below by leaving me a comment. Please also share this with others. Go ahead and subscribe so you can receive your free entrepreneur road map guide filled with powerful dynamic information that I know that will take your life to the next level. I look forward to hearing from you.

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It's time to make a change

If you want to know how to control your emotions, this is what you should remember - trying to control your emotions is a hard thing and to a large extent, unnecessary. The key is to let them be and instead choose your reaction to them.

Emotions are not our enemies, they are our friends, even the negative ones are here to help us. They act as guideposts to show us the direction where we need to go. They make us human and help us in decision making process.

If you would need to logically calculate every little decision, it would make life way too hard. Also it would be nearly impossible. How would you logically explain, whether to watch "Die Hard 3" or "Princess Diaries". Impossible. You just trust your gut instinct and choose upon your emotions at the time.

If you are overwhelmed by them and there are important decisions at stake, let them be and postpone decision making. Important decisions are better to be made in a peaceful state.

It is necessary to stay connected to them at all times. You are always bigger than your emotions, your thoughts and emotions can not hurt you. They are in you, but not you. You are something higher, something separate from them.

Thoughts and emotions are not an obligations to act. After feeling the emotions, there is a gap, this is the place where you can choose your reaction to them. This gap is the place where you are able to determine the course of your life.

Think what is the outcome you want and then act in a way that gives you that outcome. Preferably the outcome should be something that reduces the amount of negative emotions arising.

Do not identify yourself with your emotions, be the Observer of them. The Observer sees, acknowledges, but does not react. The Observer acts. Always act, but never react. By reacting you are usually replaying the situation and reinforcing it. By acting you are in charge of the course of your life.

This is easier said than done. Especially when being overwhelmed by them we ask the question- how to control your emotions? This is not the right question to ask. Right question to ask would be- how could I improve the situation?

Emotions are here to be heard and felt through. When being overwhelmed, it sometimes means, that they were repressed and in order for you to hear them, they needed to make a stronger statement.

If you let them be they start to lose their strength, like being convinced that they have been heard. After that you can be more peaceful and start taking real action to improve the situation. This way of life needs some practice. People tend to be reactive, but being reactive can throw us off course.

By postponing immediate reaction and practicing seeing the gap, you are able to steer your life. By stop wondering how to control your emotions, but letting your emotions be, observing them and not being afraid of them, you are able to gain stability and at the same time feel more alive and be able to feel the emotions freely.